What Should I Look For When Choosing a Church Home?
We've all
heard that the choice and purchase of a home is one of the most significant
decisions a person will ever make. In this temporal world that may be true.
However, choosing where you and your children will learn the things of God
and serve the Lord Jesus Christ has eternal ramifications.
Is This
Church Right for Me?
What are the
biblical criteria you need to be aware of when considering a new church?
Let's compare the search for a new church to that of a new home. When
looking for a house, people typically ask, How
much does it cost? Is it large enough to meet our family's needs? How well
is it built? What kind of neighborhood is it in? Does it have a warm and
homey atmosphere? Is it conducive to hospitality? Similarly, before choosing
a church home you need to consider its foundation, structure, function, and
environment.
Before we
consider those important components, please realize that no church is going
to be perfect. Some local churches may be in seemingly excellent condition,
while others are obvious fixer-uppers! Many fall somewhere in between. You
must seek God's will and be led by the Holy Spirit in selecting a church.
Also you need to evaluate how you and your family can contribute to that
ministry so it is not just another church, but truly a church home.
Investigating Its Foundation
Jesus said
that the wise man builds his house upon rock and the foolish man builds his
house upon sand (Matt.
There are
four main components that make up the foundation of a strong local church:
A Proper
View of Scripture.
When investigating a potential church home, pay particular attention to how
it views the Bible. Does it hold to the inspiration and inerrancy of the
Scriptures? Does it believe the Bible is the only rule for faith and
practice (2 Tim.
An Emphasis
on Bible Teaching and Preaching.
Observe what kind of preaching is done. Is it primarily expository, topical,
or evangelistic in nature? Is the main diet repetitive salvation messages
each week, or are believers being fed from the Word (Acts 20:27; 1 Tim.
4:13-16; 2 Tim. 4:1-5)? There should be a strong commitment to high-quality
Bible teaching.
Doctrinal
Soundness.
Just as you would inspect the soundness of a house's foundation, so you
should investigate the doctrinal stance of the churches you visit. Where do
they stand on such crucial issues of the Christian faith as the virgin birth
and deity of Jesus Christ; the depravity of mankind; the work of Christ on
the cross; His death, burial, and bodily resurrection; salvation by grace
through faith alone; the second coming of Christ; and the ordinances of
baptism and Communion?
Doctrinal
Practice.
Observe whether the church practices the doctrines it claims to believe and
teach. As James said to the church at large, "Prove yourselves doers of the
word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves" (James
Examining
Its Structure
Once you are
satisfied with the foundational aspects of the church, you need to look at
its structural components. Recently I walked through a new house under
construction. I noticed posts that weren't plumb, seams that didn't meet
properly, and beams that were crooked and uneven. Those were glaring
structural defects in a home advertised as being built by "the last of the
true craftsmen"!
The
structural components of a local church provide not only its strength, but
also dictate the character and direction of its ministry. Those components
include:
Church
Government.
Find out if the church's leaders function according to New Testament
principles (1 Tim. 3:1-13; 5:17-20; Titus 1:4-9; Heb. 13:7, 17). Do they
understand the centrality of Christ as head of the church and His desire to
rule His church through a plurality of godly men (Eph. 1:22;
Evidence of
Order.
The church's ministry, including its services, teaching, and administration,
should have an obvious sense of order. Some church services exhibit as much
lack of planning as do homes with poorly thought-out floor plans. Some
churches handle the Lord's resources and work in such a haphazard way that
they bring shame to the name of Christ. As Paul said in speaking of the
church, "Let all things be done properly and in an orderly manner" (1
Cor.
Functional
Goals and Objectives.
As you investigate a new church, find out if the leadership has set any
goals. Has the church planned for future progress and direction? Does it
have in mind particular methods of reaching those goals? Like Paul, we as a
church need "to run in such a way, as not without aim" (1
Cor.
The Size.
When purchasing a home, some people prefer the warmth and quaintness of a
small home in a quiet rural setting. Others prefer living in a larger
structure in an urban area. The same is true when considering the size of a
church. Some Christians love being involved in a large urban ministry with
hundreds or even thousands of people. Others feel lost in the vastness of
such a ministry and fare much better in a smaller congregation. Again,
finding your niche in the Body of Christ requires the leading of the Holy
Spirit in your life.
Seeing How
It Functions
When
satisfied that the foundation and structure are what they should be, the
wise home buyer will then look at how functional the house is. Does it
fulfill the purpose for which it was designed? Does it meet the needs of the
family?
As you
observe how a church functions, look for an emphasis on worshipping God.
See if the leadership stresses the importance of honoring and glorifying God
in all things (1 Cor. 10:31; Col.3:17). Also
observe the involvement of the individual members. Do they exercise
their spiritual gifts among the Body of Christ (
Does the
church emphasize evangelism as one of its primary functions? Are home
and foreign missions an important part of its ministry (Matt.
28:19-20; Mark
A strong
local church is marked by love. Do the members seem to genuinely care
for one another? Do they minister to each other's needs? As you become
acquainted with the church, do you sense that the members are
loving one another as Christ commanded (John
The
leadership of the church you choose should be committed to teaching and
supporting God's design for the family (Eph.
Checking Its
Environment
If you have
ever gone house hunting, you know what it's like to walk through and sense
the atmosphere of the place. It can feel cold and gloomy or warm and
inviting. It can have a homey feel or it can be impersonal--almost like a
museum.
Doubtless
you have had the same experience when attending various churches. Certain
observable factors contribute to the overall atmosphere of a local church.
Those environmental components are usually manifested in attitudes.
A High View
of God.
Proverbs
The Presence
of a Sincere Faith.
Is it obvious to you that the church lives and operates by faith? Are the
people willing to trust God (Heb. 11:1, 6; Eph.
Spirit of
Sacrifice.
Can you see that the church members are willing to sacrifice themselves and
their possessions to advance God's kingdom (Rom. 12:1; 2
Cor. 8:3; Matt.
Proper
Attitudes Toward the Pastor and Other Leaders.
As you talk with the people, be sensitive to how they regard their leaders.
Do they appreciate and esteem the pastor and other leaders "very highly in
love because of their work" (1 Thess.
Spirit of
Unity.
This is often the most obvious attitude radiating from a local congregation.
An outsider is usually able to sense very quickly whether a church is
unified in its ministry. That has a great effect on its testimony to the
community and reflects on the name of our Lord (John 13:34-35; 1
Cor. 1:10-17; 3:1-9; Eph. 4:1-6; Phil. 2:1-5;
4:1-5).
Am I Right
For This Church?
We have
looked at the foundational, structural, functional, and environmental
components of a vital, healthy local church. Now look at yourself and ask,
Are there opportunities here for me to serve and exercise my spiritual
gifts? Does this local body have a need that by God's enabling I can meet?
Am I willing to get what the church can do for me, but also what I can do
for the Lord as I serve Him in this church? Am I willing to give of my time,
money, energy, and prayers to contribute to the success of this church (Mark
A house is
not a home until all the members of a family contribute to its success. The
same is true of a church home. Only when each member in the family of God
exercises his or her God-given gifts will God's children feel at home in His
church.
The decision
you make about what church to attend will greatly affect your spiritual life
and the lives of your children. In fact, the decisions you make now will
affect your descendants and the generations to come. That's a sobering
reality.
Remember
that no church will ever perfectly fulfill all these criteria. There is no
perfect church. Also, remember that every church is going to have its own
special blend of the characteristics we have examined. The key is to find a
church that has them in proper balance, not overemphasizing some or
de-emphasizing others. A balanced ministry is a Spirit-controlled ministry.
If you find a church that possesses most but not all of the characteristics
we've mentioned, don't immediately disregard it. Consider whether God wants
to use you to help improve that local body as you exercise your own
particular spiritual gifts.
Choosing a
church home is one of the most significant decisions you will ever make--one
that reaches into eternity. May each of us spend at least as much time and
effort making that decision as we do deciding on our earthly
dwelling.