What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
In Matthew
19, Jesus states that God ordained the institution of marriage, and He has
decreed that in every marriage, the husband and wife are to become
one for life. Divorce destroys the marriage and thus breaks asunder a union
God Himself has established (Mark 10:9). "I hate divorce," says the Lord
(Mal.
Jesus' teaching on divorce is
clear. He restricted divorce under most circumstances, and He forbade the
remarriage of those who divorce on improper grounds, calling such remarriage
adultery: "But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife,
except for the cause of unchastity, makes her
commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"
(Matt. 5:32). The word "unchastity" in that
verse is the Greek word porneia,
"fornication"--which includes all kinds of gross sexual immorality.
The Old
Testament contained a few provisions governing the remarriage of divorced
people (Lev.
So God's utter hatred of divorce
is very clear in Scripture. And
every measure should be taken to bring reconciliation.
Nonetheless, there are two
extraordinary cases in which Scripture teaches that God does permit
divorced people to remarry.
First, note that Jesus Himself
included this exception clause: "Whosoever shall put away his wife,
except it be for fornication [sexual sin], and shall marry another,
committeth adultery" (Matt. 19:9, King James
Version, emphasis added). He allows an exception in this one case, only
"because of the hardness of your hearts" (Matt. 19:8). Clearly, Jesus is
treating divorce as a last resort, only to be sought in the case of
hard-hearted adultery.
The apostle
Paul allows one more reason for divorce: if an unbelieving spouse abandons a
believer, the believer is under no obligation in such a case (1
Cor.
But we must emphasize that apart from those two specific, exceptional cases, divorce is not sanctioned in Scripture.